5 Must-Do’s for Keeping Your Marriage Alive After Kids

Keeping the Spark Alive! 5 Must Do Tips for Your Marriage.

One of the single most important pieces of advice I ever received (and didn’t listen to for some time) was to make time for yourself and your marriage. Especially when your children are really young, the man in your life may feel unneeded and left out. Babies who are nursing will need their mother for the basics of life and this can leave your husband feeling pushed to the outside. Though there is not a lot you can do to change your babies needs at this time in their lives, you can do things to make your husband or significant other feel special. Try these tips to keep the spark alive;

• Try surprising him with a specially cooked meal. Make it easy but yummy! He’ll appreciate your efforts. Try some of the recipes from here to see what you can find.

• Leave fun sticky notes around the house to let him know you still care.

• Prepare an evening out for just the two of you. This must be prepared in advance so you have sitters, reservations and transportation all worked out ahead of time. Sittercity.com
which helps parents and babysitters to contact each other.This is a wonderful resource for finding babysitters in your area. Employees are given a background check and references are available along with parent reviews. This really puts your mind at ease.

• Let him care for the baby whenever possible. But don’t hover or dominate. Remember that your baby will live through a backwards diaper or “not quite right” bottle. So let HIM do it.

• Talk with him about his day and discuss things other than “the baby”.

Most importantly, make your husband feel loved and needed. This is a time when communication skills must be sharpened and utilized to their fullest extent. This period in your relationship lasts such a brief time. Kids will consume your every minute if you let them so you must take action now! When you are exhausted and can hardly lift your head, be sure to say “I love you” before falling fast asleep. You’ll be glad you did for years to come.

This book will help your husband understand what he is preparing for with his new family dynamics. Opening the lines of communication is key. Try this book to do just that.

Understanding your mate can be difficult…we are so different. This read is a must have and will enlighten you with insightful information as to how our brains relate to our relationships.